Sunday, February 15, 2009

A very Blue Sunday for Tom.

Tom's Journal.

Brenda Lee-I'm Sorry (SuperSound)

Well Readers and Friends,
I guess that I am in a sour mood tonight although my Flu is breaking up and I feel better physically-- but my wife left me today [and wants a divorce] and took my older car that I am still paying own. The house and vehicles are all in my name, for good reason. It's hard to trust the 'ladies' Of course, not all women are the same... Ha! She admitted to me a few nights ago [while she had it all planned..] that the ONLY reason she married me was because of my good Chrysler Med. and Health Insurance-- that she milked so vigorously in the past 4 years. But , really, she lied to me from the get go and I should have run her slut butt out of town the day I met her. Ha! Some of my good friends actually told me to do just that. My mom didn't trust her either and told me that she spent money like water when they went to play bingo and just stuffed her mouth with enough food to feed 3 women. She sent me a picture of herself-- but it was 7 years old... and also lied about her health and disabilities. Well, I am certainly no boy scout and I get crabby and rude too much... but I don't lie, steal and cheat, or charge up thousands of dollars in plastic debt behind my mate's back and then let me pay of the bill. Yesterday she put liquor on the Ham before baking it and the Ham blew up and was on fire! Scared the crap out of me as I was watching TV! But she has left the oven or stove on many times too and never gave a hoot about stuff that didn't belong to her. She lied about being a Christian too and never did get into the Bible or the Lord much, so rather than look for revenge-- I well know that "the Lord will repay." And a few more years of life on earth are nothing compared to all eternity in a 'worse place.'
Still, I feel depressed, alone, cheated and sorry. I still have my good Rottweiler, 'Deuce' and a dog won't ever leave you-- they are very loyal. I will see my lawyer tomorrow and also cut her out of my bank account, and she can go back to her $500/ mo. welfare money and live with people her own 'sort.' She wants to go back to OH with her kids [who are having trouble too] and that would best serve the state of WI... lol.

I prayed hard last night that God would allow my best interests and the 'right thing' to happen, so maybe it did, and I should now be much wiser too.
But it's a funny thing that my son came over to visit me today too, and he claimed to have given notice at his nice apartment in Milwaukee-- that he was leaving to be with his so-called girl friend, and then she ended that affair right after ward! Here is one lesson I MUST teach all men-- never, NEVER think that you can save money by sharing a house or apartment with a 'lady.' All you need to do is look at the girl the wrong way, or say the wrong word, and then you are without a place to stay, out in the cold, in a heart beat! I learned that the hard way too, so I just bought myself a cheap house after I retired from Chrysler after over 30 years, that I could afford all by myself. You see, 'ladies' will push for a "nice" house to show off to their friends, that takes 2 full time jobs to pay the mortgage, and when something happens... well.. you can see what is happening to many people losing everything, and our Nation, right? 'We want a champagne taste for a beer price'...LOL! We Vietnam Veterans have had a challenge with relationships for the most part, and it makes sense to do your home work and always leave an escape route open, in case the 'Viet Cong' try some funny business while you are sleeping. For those who have found true love and have a long lasting relationship/ marriage, I say: God Bless You!
Well, my wife hardly ever did the dishes, laundry or any cleaning of the house and she was a real pig with absolutely no love-- just gimme- gimme, so maybe this was the right thing to do. She had no Scriptural reasons to leave me so this abomination be upon HER head, and until she gets right with God, I feel that she is on the highway to hell. Just my very humble opinion. And perhaps God is using this occasion because the woman was pulling me down to hell and He needed to slap me up side the face to wake ME up. But does the Lord always have to use brass knuckles on me?? [joke]
Don't feel too sorry for me, because I need to get my act together too and have been neglecting my bible studies lately. All I can say is that I will try much harder not to make another goofy mistake in my judgment again, or stay single. Maybe I can serve the Lord better without an 'anchor' tied to my leg... and I don't want to jump into another relationship for a long time! Anyway you cut it-- now I can hear myself think with out the constant ragging, nagging, whining and complaints or lying.

I just wanted to make one more point, and that is, I called a few of my so-called "Christian" friends [Robby and Marvin] to come over to give me some support to strengthen me thru this sorted business/ ordeal this morning, and they just couldn't find the time or were too busy! I won't have any time for them either after this, sorry. I told them: "You can't lose a friend that you never had." In other words, 'talk is cheap-- but actions are what count in a person's hour of need.' I pray that those fair weather so-called Christians will see the error of their ways and I wouldn't want any of them to carry MY casket to the grave at this point in my life. They would probably be TOO BUSY FOR THAT TOO.



Carolyn said...

Tom, I'm real sorry this is happening to you right now. No matter what Sharon is doing, it's sad to see you going through more of this. I hope you will be able to talk to your pastor, and maybe he will be able to point you to a good ministry for you. I will be keeping you both in my prayers Tom. You know my e mail if you need to vent-

garnett109 said...

Sorry to hear all this friend.
Hang tough!

Dirk said...

Oh man, I'm just blown away although I figured this was coming sooner or later. I really hate this is happening. My first marriage was very similar including the debt that I'm still paying on today. The climate was about the same, couldn't trust her any further than I could throw her, and so on.

If you need to talk or vent, e-mail me. We will be lifting you up in prayer, & I trust when this ordeal is over, that a great weight will be lifted off your back. I'm glad you're as well grounded in the Word as you are which I know will be a huge help.

As for those who couldn't "find the time" for you - as the overworked saying goes, what goes around comes around. When they hit something in their lives, they'll find out what it's like to have their "friends" bail on them.


Cathy said...

Aw, Tom, listen never compare your friends' actions with what you would've done, you'll always come up wanting. As for the woman wreaking havoc with your life, try to remember when you loved her then just let it all go. Agree to anything and start your happier, real life. Don't make divorce your daily project, as happens so often when so much ambivalence is involved. Agree, wave goodbye, and just let it all go.

Lynne said...

Hi Tom. I am new to your blog, and am so sorry for your pain. Having lived on the other side of the fence, and realizing that you are absorbed right now in your situation - I have to go on record and say that it can happen on either side of the gender. Both men and women need to take responsibility and make sure they can handle living expenses on their own paycheck, just in case something like this happens. When my husband and I separated, I raised two daughters without child support or assistance. I made sure I was responsible. Not everyone is like your wife, and it is never a "one-size-fits-all". I just don't want you to hate the entire female gender based on a few apparently bad choices in life. But I think you have the right attitude right now, seek God and He will restore what the cankor worm has stolen from you. I know it is true, because God has blessed me for everything that was lost and then some. God Bless!

AGirlNexDoorCreation said...

Keeping you in prayer Tom...sorry to hear the news! Hugs,TerryAnn

tony said...

You Sure Celebrate Valentines Day Differently in The States! My Sympathy.....Relationships are a battlefield at the best of times.....but 'sounds to me youv'e been "Dumped-On" most royally.Stay Strong.Best Wishes + hey! Nice Blog
Regards from Tony in England.

Jenny said...

So sorry to hear your news. Keep safe with God and he will see you through this tough time.
Jenny <><

madison said...

Wow, really sorry to hear about you and your wife, but God never closes one door without opening another one. I believe everything happens for a reason, to make us stronger in our faith. I have no doubt that your faith is strong, but he must have a purpose for you. It may not seem like it, but something good will come out of all this.
I'll be keeping you in my prayers, my friend.